Thursday, April 14, 2011

The Perfect 10!!!!




This guy picked me, he chose me, and he loves me like no one has ever loved me!


Today marks one decade of a life together. An amazing, crazy life together. We have been on a ride that would make the scariest ride at Disney World look like a kiddie ride. It has been unbelievable at times. From deployments, to moves across the country multiple times, to cancer we have done it all. All the good and not so good times have made our marriage amazingly strong. It is almost like a fairy tale and I LOVE it! Our marriage today is so good it looks fake to many people. 

Our secret.....

Honesty
Love
Friendship
and Christ!!!

Scott is the best thing that has ever happened to me. When I say he is my best friend, I mean it. He is truly my best friend. We do everything together and I love it that way. He is all I need....He completes me!


It might also be this great because he....

Cooks all the meals
Does most of the laundry
Cleans the house when I need him to


Yep, he is that great!!!

Even though the military has decided I am now entitled to half of his earnings if something better comes along.....I think I will keep him because he is worth way more than half his earnings!!! He is priceless!!!

So here is to a lifetime together! May the next 10 be as amazing and crazy as the first 10!!!!


Sunday, April 10, 2011

The Rest is Still Unwritten....



Before me sits a journal. Brand new, and filled with blank white fresh pages. As I open it, I bring it close to my face and inhale. Ahhhhh, new and fresh, clean and crisp.

With a pen in my hand and the ending unplanned, a new chapter begins, and the rest is still unwritten.....



Lyrics from one of my favorite songs describe exactly how I feel.....



I am unwritten
Can't read my mind
I'm undefined

I'm just beginning
The pen's in my hand
Ending unplanned

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words
That you could not find

Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

Oh, oh

I break tradition
Sometimes my tries
Are outside the lines

We've been conditioned
To not make mistakes
But I can't live that way, no

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words
That you could not find

Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips


Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
To the years where your book begins
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
To the years where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words
That you could not find

Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
To the years where your book begins
Feel the rain on your skin

No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips

Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
To the years where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

The rest is still unwritten
The rest is still unwritten

Thursday, April 7, 2011

I AM A SURVIVOR!!!

The Lord will fight for you;
 you only need to be still
Ex 14:14


I was still and I let God fight for me. Today I can proudly say.....I AM STILL A SURVIVOR!!!! My cancer is not back. I do not have to fight again. My lump is a cyst and is not infected with cancer. I am free of the yuck, free of the fear, free of the anger and full of happiness and joy. 

Prayers were answered today. News is good today. Life is amazing always. 

This journey was a tough one. I traveled it like I have never done before. I had read this verse when all of this started. I kept it close to my heart the whole time. This was a very long process and it took everything for me to just be still. To not freak out and strangle the base medical personal. From tests being lost, to results not given upon arrival, it was hard to just be still.

I was tested to the last minute, and I stayed still, knowing God was fighting for me. Yesterday, seemed long. This morning my phone did not ring when it was suppose to. Jillian had an appointment this morning so after her appointment we stopped by my Doctor's office. We waited for what seemed to be forever. The nurse came out, sat down and asked if I had heard from radiology. I hadn't. She said that they were suppose to call me because I needed more testing. What???? When did they know that? What tests do they need done and why? So down to radiology we went. Jillian's patience are wearing down as are mine. I calmly went to the radiology counter and asked about my tests and what further testing they need. Long story short, there was a mix up. They wanted more ultrasounds done on my ovary. Those tests were taken care of last week off base, so no lack of communication held up my results. When I calmly explained to them what I was there for, (the mammogram), they looked confused. One of the questions I heard them ask each other was, "Is that the one we are still waiting on?" My response, "it better not be, I have waited over a month for this". Stillness was leaving me. I could feel my face turn red and my hands shake. I was not in the mood to be still. I believe that is when I gripped the desk and to myself said, "Fight for me"!

He did! After some more waiting and watching people scurry around to figure out what was going on. I was handed a letter and asked, " Have you not received this yet?" Ahhhh, nope, sure haven't. The letter, dated March 10, 2011 states that mammogram is normal!!!!! Yep, a month ago they knew and didn't tell me. Why? Yep, not sure! Don't really care, because it is normal and I do not have cancer. 

I was still, I remained calm most of the time, and I let God fight for me. Your prayers and mine were answered today and I am cancer free!!! Happy, loved, positive, excited, fearless, amazed, blessed, and every other happy word you can think of is what I am right now. I am on top of the world. 

Thank you everyone for your support during this amazingly crazy journey. Thank you for you love, prayers and kindness. Words will never be able to express the love I have for all of my amazing true friends. Your light shined so bright. All of you are why I stayed still, you helped me more than you will ever know! I only wish you were all close because, I see a party with lots of pink in our future! This is a cause for a celebration!!!!! 

He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed,
miracles that cannot be counted
Job 5:12-14

Gracefully I look up, to you God....Thank you, thank you, thank you!! Thank you for fighting for me. For teaching me to just be still and let you do the fighting. Your love is amazing. My faith in you is stronger than ever, my love for you is deeper than I could have ever imagined it to be. I am so very thankful for today and the love you have given me. The miracle that we are able to celebrate again. Thank you for letting me stay a survivor!!!

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Patience isn't a Word in my Vocabulary....

Being strengthened with all power according to His glorious might 
so that you may have great endurance and patience
Colossians 1:11


So, I am not the most patient person in the world. 

Waiting in long lines...hate it!

Slow drivers....drive me CRAZY

Waiting for just about anything....well, let's face it...I can't handle it. 

I am not patient at all!!!

The last time I was diagnosed with cancer, it took the Doctors close to a year to give me a definitive answer. It wore me out. It was beyond frustrating. The whole process would make a normal person's head spin. So over a month ago, when the lump was discovered I was prepared to wait. Wait for answers, wait for doctor's appointments, just wait for whatever. 

They say you learn from your past. That you can learn a lesson from all experiences. Well, I believe I did. I believe, I learned to develop a certain level of patience when it comes to cancer and the Military medical system. In fact my patience has even surprised me from time to time over the last month and a half! 

God's power has given me a great level of patience during this whole ordeal. I am trying so hard to stay calm. To wait without anger. To trust that the time it is taking to know something, is the time needed to know exactly what is wrong. NO MISTAKES. 

Well, yesterday I think my high level of calmness left when they told me the results were in. I thought for sure I would have received a call by now. I haven't. I have checked my phone more times today, than I think I have ever checked it. I don't want to wait 48 hours. I wanted to know this morning. 

Why hasn't that nurse called?
Doesn't she know I am going crazy?
What if she were me?

Come on lady, pick up the stupid phone and call my flipping number. Why aren't you calling me?

Do you know something you don't want to tell me?
Did you lose my results?

LET ME KNOW SOMETHING!!!! ANYTHING!!!!

OK, now you know how I really feel. I am going crazy. I have run out of patience!!! 

Although, I am ready to know, I was very thankful for what today did bring. Today went exactly how I needed it to go.  Scott stayed home on his "reading" day and spent the day with me. We went on two great walks and organized three closets. The weather was amazing and our time together was awesome. It helped pass time in a great way. Scott being home and some lovely coconut creme filled dove chocolates helped me not go postal! Not go crazy at the base clinic. 

Tomorrow will be different. I will wait again. 48 hours will be up at 11am. Not sure if this is good or bad, but I will be out at the clinic at that time. Jillian has an appointment and I may just swing by and see what they know. Maybe, if they see my face. See my fear and anger they will give me answers. 

To get through this, I will look to the above verse. Trust in God's power and know that He has given me the endurance and patience to get me to this point and will continue to give me what I need. I waited almost a whole year last time, what is another 24 hours.....right????

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Fighter or Survivor....in 48 hours or less I will know!

A month ago I received a letter saying, in one month I would know something. Negative or positive, survivor or fighter, either way I would know something. Last Friday was a month and no phone call. So Monday came and no phone call. Tuesday came and I called. Not waiting on them anymore!!! I need to know something, anything. So I called and the receptionist answered. Just a little side info for my non military friends, when you call the base clinic for anything you will not be transfered to a nurse. Instead you will be told that they have up to 48 hours to respond. I gave them a month, but knew that would be the response. So I sweet talked the kind person on the other end of the phone. Told her my sob story and asked her if she could hook me up.

She hooked me up as much as she could. Probably told me more then she was suppose to. She said she would put "urgent" on my message, which could make the Dr call me back faster. Awesome! Then I asked her if she could see if they were in. With hesitation in her voice she said, "hold on one second". She looked and then said, "YES, the results are in". That is good enough for me for now. 

In 48 hours or less I will either be a......

Or a..... 
I am on my knees, thankful that the answers are out there. In 48 hours or less I will know something!!! 


I am faithful that God will provide me with the strength to handle whatever the result is. I am thankful that I will finally know something and I am ready to face anything. 

Perfect Race with a Perfect Partner!

Last week was tough. It was real tough. It involved a lot of tears and sadness. With that came fear and anger. I expect to have these weeks until I get results. In fact, even after the results are revealed to me, I expect to have lots of times in my life like last week. It is life after all, and not every day is going to be filled with rainbows and butterflies. To get through last week I did some reading, picked up the good book and looked for something uplifting. As I opened the Bible I remembered a wise man recommend I read the Book of Job. That wise man is my Dad. Yep, he was right. That was exactly what I needed to read. My Dad is pretty much a rock star!!! He knows lots, and still gives me lots of advice. For the most part, it is the perfect advice. So I read, and the Book of Job is exactly what I needed to read. It gave me insight as to what is going on with me and why. Thanks Dad!!!

Reading the bible, crying my eyes out and venting via blog, helped me clear my head and refocus a bit. My venting brought a ton of great uplifting e-mails from my really good friends. People that get me, that know exactly what I need to hear. The bible, good friends, an awesome family, and a trip to look forward to made everything good again. Tears dried up and I smiled again.

I smiled because I had all of the above and another race with Scott to look forward to.  A couple of months ago, I signed Scott and I up for another half marathon. That race was this past weekend. A trip away was exactly what we needed. Funny, how these races seem to come at the most perfect times. Gives us time away to refresh and recharge. So we packed and off we went to Lynchburg, TN. Home to the Jack Daniels Whiskey Distillery.

13.1 miles gives you time to think things through, clear your head. Running side by side with Scott gives us time to talk without interruption. He has an amazing way of building me up and pushing me along. I am the whiner when it comes to running. You will never know if Scott is aching because he doesn't say a word. Just listens to me whine and says the right things to keep me going. He is the best running partner ever.

This race was perfect. We went into it knowing that we would enjoy our time together and not worry about the time on the clock. I knew that was the plan, but for whatever reason, I couldn't just relax and enjoy the race. Scott saw that, and he changed that. I am not sure how he knew I was worried about it, but he did. I have a problem with worrying about what others think. I can't seem to just do these races for me. Scott, said just that and he was right. Who am I doing this for, why I am I running this race? He fixed me!!!! I realized at mile 3 this is our race, our time, and what we needed.

Every mile after that was incredible, amazing, awesome, and perfect. The scenery was breath taking. Babbling brooks, horses running with their colts, wild flowers in bloom, and not a car in sight. The runners were spaced out perfectly so it felt like it was just Scott and I. 13.1 miles of amazing! We laughed a lot on this course and had a great time. We walked when we felt like walking, which was a lot, this course had a ton of enormously large hills!! Ran when we felt like running and enjoyed every treat they offered at every water station. We made this our race and I loved that.


I love Scott so very much!!! He is amazing to me at all times. Running through the finish line and hearing the announcer calling our names out, brought tears to my eyes. It does every time, because the announcer always pauses when he realizes that we have the same last name, that we are together. It always starts with, "here comes Scott Bro......."and then, the pause and he says it again, "here comes Scott and Tara Brodeur from Prattville, AL. That is how it will always be, the two of us together and I love that. He will never leave me in the dust no matter what. Scott is with me every mile no matter how hilly they get. No matter how whiney I am. Scott also steps back one step at every finish line so I come in ahead of him!!!! He will always put me first!



So two more medals are added to the pile. We have cleared our heads and will face anything God puts in our path together. We will run every mile together and finish with medals around our necks at the end.

Things got bad and now things are good again. Thanks to a wonderful husband, great friends and an awesome family I can run any race no matter how hilly it gets!



Gracefully, I look up to you, God thankful for putting perfect people in my life. People that help me when times are tough, that lift me up instead of bringing me down. You have placed the most amazing people in my life and they shine brighter then any light I have ever seen when it is so dark in my world.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Sometimes it is too dark......

Picture it....You are in a dark room with no light, 4 walls surrounding you, one wall has the door. This door leads you out of this dark room. You can't find the knob to open that door. Every now and then you see some light coming out of a crack and this leads you to the way out. Before you are able to find the door knob to open the door, the light goes out. For a minute your feel free, life is good, you are getting out of the dark room. Then that minute is gone and you are stuck in the dark room searching for a way out again. That is what my life feels like right now.

I feel very blessed all of the time. I am faithful in the fact that God is giving me these challenges to test my faith. I know that I am passing the tests, because I am putting my trust in him. All that being said, I WANT OUT OF THIS ROOM!!!! I am done. Last night, I cried, and cried, and cried some more.

The last couple of months have been a roller coaster. I really wish all I had on my plate was the whole cancer thing. Frankly, I feel like that is enough! Remember, how I said I wish I could bottle up the happiness I had last week and keep it forever. Well, as I sit here, I pray so hard that the happiness and joy will come back. It seems like every step forward has given me 4 steps back. Maybe, if the cancer thing wasn't there all the things that are happening wouldn't seem so bad.

Maybe Jillian getting head lice twice, notice of a move to CA, news that our dog may not make the move, and life just happening wouldn't seem so bad. They wouldn't be the things that turn that light off. Maybe, if I just had life happening yesterday wouldn't have made me cry so much that Jillian told me she was glad I hadn't cried in the morning.

Well yesterday happened and yesterday was the straw that broke the camels back. My sweet Jessie got 3 days of in school suspension. Yep, you read that right...my straight A, wonderful 13 year old got ISS. Bet you want to know why? Bet you are saying right now, "that will never happen to my child". Bet some of you are judging my skills as a parent. That is my fear, that I am being judge by this.  Maybe, if this was the only thing on my plate I wouldn't be over thinking this. I wouldn't care what people might think or say because I could be strong enough to face the "perfect" people of this world.  I am sick to my stomach over it. Sick that my sweet girl is sitting in a room with other trouble makers, being judged. Looked at like she is one of "those kids". She opened up her phone in the car rider line and took a picture after the last bell of the day had rung. A rule is a rule and she broke it so she is being punished. It was hard to hear your child is in trouble when ever other time you have been to the school all you hear is praises about how awesome she is.

So yesterday, I cried. I was hurt that my daughter lied to me, hurt that she would face 3 days of ISS, and hurt that she acted like a silly 13 year old. I love Jessie more then she will ever know. She isn't one to hug, and that hurts because I want to hug her every day. She really isn't one to say I love you and I need that from her. I need her to say, "Mama,  I love you" and give me a giant hug. She won't and that hurts.  I want a hug, some love and then maybe all of this wouldn't feel so bad.

I am ready for this chapter of my life to be over. I am ready to move forward. To not cry anymore. To not be afraid. To not have the little things seem so big because of the big thing on my plate. I want just the little things back. One at a time. I want the door to open and to be lead to the room filled with light.

I am beyond bless with my life and it could be so much worse. I know that and am happy about that but, today I am in a pit. If my phone could just ring and the Doctor could give me my stupid mammo result, I could breath again and face stupid things like a child is ISS without over thinking anything!!!!



Gracefully, I look up and ask God, to please get me out of here. Give me my life back. Make things bright again. I am sad, scared and hurt. Give my Jessie reason to hug me, let her love me as deep as I love her. Make it all go away. My faith in you is beyond strong. I know you will make it all better, but I am running out of steam.